This is was the main star of the night... the lean meat was so nice... oooooohhhhhh...... yummy!
Starter platter - hot wings, calamaries, fried fish, cheese sticks with potatos
Bake rice.... very ncie bake rice I must say... enjoyed it!
The personal hawaiian pizza was good... they use bbq sauce instead of the ususal tomato base... wonderful. Will be back to try other things!
Just look at the meat... so inviting! so yummy... so shiok!
This time round, we tried the fried patin fish instead of the steam one... only certain part of the fish was crispy! Taste-wise, the fish was not fishy at all. The sauce was nice to go with the rice. Overall, quite an enjoyable meal
How both givers and receivers of apologies benefit. 
Apology Benefits the Receiver and the Giver
Expressing Regret Accept Responsibility
It is very difficult for some people to admit that they’re wrong. It makes them doubt their self-worth, and no one likes to be portrayed as a failure. However, as adults, we must all admit that we will make mistakes. We are going to make poor decisions that hurt our mates, and we are going to have to admit that we were wrong. We have to accept responsibility for our own failures.
For many individuals, all they want is to hear the words, “I am wrong.” If the apology neglects accepting responsibility for their actions, many partners will not feel as though the apology was meaningful and sincere. Many partners need to learn how to overcome their ego, the desire to not be viewed as a failure, and simply admit that their actions were wrong. For a mate who speaks this apology language, if an apology does not admit fault, it is not worth hearing. Being sincere in your apology means allowing yourself to be weak, and admitting that you make mistakes. Though this may be hard to do for some people, it makes a world of a difference to your partner who speaks this language.
Make Restitution
In our society, many people believe that wrong acts demand justice. The one who commits the crime should pay for their wrongdoing. A mate who speaks this love language feels the same way towards apologies. They believe that in order to be sincere, the person who is apologizing should justify their actions. The mate who’s been hurt simply wants to hear that their mate still loves them.
There are many effective ways to demonstrate sincerity in an apology. Each mate must learn the other’s love language in order to complete the act of restitution. Though some mates may feel a though all is forgotten with a bouquet of flowers, that may not necessarily work for all mates. Every mate should uncover what their partner’s main love language is (Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts) and use that specific language in order to make restitutions in the most effective way.
For a mate whose primary apology language is making restitutions, no matter how often you say “I’m sorry”, or “I was wrong”, your mate will never find the apology sincere. You must show strong efforts for making amends. A genuine apology will be accompanied by the assurance that you still love your mate
and have a desire to right the wrong-doings committed.
Genuinely Repent
For some individuals, repentance is the convincing factor in an apology. Some mates will doubt the sincerity of an apology if it is not accompanied by their partner’s desire to modify their behavior to avoid the situation in the future.
Admitting you are wrong creates vulnerability. It allows your mate to get a glimpse of your heart. The glimpse of true self is assurance that the apology was sincere.
One important aspect of genuinely repenting is verbalizing your desire to change. Your mate cannot read your mind. Though you may be trying to change inside, if you do not verbalize your desire to change to your mate, most likely they will still be hurt.
Many people have problems with repenting when they do not feel as though their actions were morally wrong. However, in a healthy relationship, we often make changes that have nothing to do with morality and everything to do with building a harmonious marriage.
It is also important to make a dedicated plan for change. Often apologies involving repentance fail because the person never set up steps of action to help ensure success. A person must first set goals for their change. After you create realistic goals, then you can start implementing a plan to change. Taking baby steps towards repentance instead of insisting on changing all at once will increase your chances of successfully changing your ways.
It is important to remember that change is hard. Constructive change does not mean we will immediately be successful. There will be highs and lows on the road to change. You must remember anyone can change their ways if they are truly and genuinely ready to repent.
Request Forgiveness
In some relationships, a mate wants to hear their partner physically ask for forgiveness. They want assurance that their mate recognizes the need for forgiveness. By asking forgiveness for their actions, a partner is really asking their mate to still love them. Requesting forgiveness assures your mate that you want to see the relationship fully restored. It also proves to your mate that you are sincerely sorry for what you’ve done. It shows that you realize you’ve done something wrong. Requesting forgiveness also shows that you are willing to put the future of the relationship in the hands of the offended mate. You are leaving the final decision up to your partner – to forgive or not forgive.
Requesting forgiveness is not easy. It often leaves one vulnerable to the fear of rejection. Along with the fear of rejection is the fear of failing. Many people have a hard time seeking forgiveness because it means admitting that you have failed. The only way to overcome this fear is to recognize that it is very common amongst mankind. The commonality makes it okay to be a failure. It allows a stubborn mate to apologize to their partner and become a healthy individual.
Ultimately, it’s important to remember that there is a difference between asking for forgiveness and DEMANDING forgiveness. When we demand forgiveness, we tend to forget the nature of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a choice the offended party is supposed to make. Demanding forgiveness takes away the sincerity of asking for it.
Remember not to treat forgiveness lightly. It is something to be cherished and appreciated. The act of forgiveness is hard on both ends – for the person who’s asking and for the person who’s accepting.
This is for a friend's friend who might need help.. interesting article:-
Adultery doesn't have to end in divorce. But it is a wake-up call--a very loud one--that something is seriously wrong with the relationship. If a couple can learn to recognize the real motivations for the infidelity, and develop the skills to deal with the underlying problems, they have a good shot at surviving the trauma. Here's are some things they can do:
Acknowledge the infidelity.
Many people choose not to acknowledge their spouses infidelity to themselves, let alone to others for fear of risking all that they have. To lose even the semblance of a happy home, one they've nurtured for years, is too much to bear. They ignore their instincts, fail to confront their spouses, and make emotional tradeoffs with themselves--tradeoffs that ultimately serve neither themselves nor their marriage.
End the affair.
In order to rebuild the marriage, the unfaithful spouse has to take responsibility for his/her actions and end the affair.
Determine the reasons for the infidelity.
Without placing blame, discuss the underlying problems that contributed to difficulty in the marriage. Often, couples get so caught up in the minutiae of everyday life that they don't heed the signals that the road is getting rocky. Try to figure out where each partner's needs weren't being met. Empathizing with each other's emotions will make you feel more connected. List the behaviors you want your partner to change. Once you're aware of where each partner's needs weren't being met, work towards correcting those problems.
Let your partner know where he/she can find you.
The most difficult task is restoring trust, so the partner who strayed must be willing to go to great lengths to assure his/her spouse that he/she is being faithful. This means keeping him/her informed of business meetings and travel so he/she knows where he'she is, when he/she's working late and with whom.
Go beyond words.
Find concrete ways to show the faithful partner that he/she is valued and respected. A small gift with special significance, a call in the middle of the day, or a thoughtful card are all good choices.
Re-romanticize the marriage.
Think back to what turned you on when you first met. What clothes did you wear? What perfume or after-shave? Get dressed up when you go out for dinner. Spend more pleasurable time together, playing tennis or taking golf lessons, for example.
Begin to reconnect.
Share your hopes and dreams about your new--and improved--future together.
The Chinatown Complex temp market is now situated just beside the Outram MRT. The place gave the place a very Nostalgic feel... with the zinc roof and the lights at night... Singapore should have more of these.
There were easily 8-10 stalls selling the Steam Fish Head with bean sauce. I wonder why... price range from $10 - $13... We tried this stall called Cheng Ji (stall no: 119)
This was the other famous stall. There was a constant queue. They never stopped dishing out their Char Kueh Teow and Hokkien Mee! We ordered their Fried Oyster to complement the Steam Fish we ordered.
So other then the steam fish and fried oyster, we ordered the fried noodles, yam cake and soon kueh. The noodles was very GOOD... really... brought back memories of my childhood days! Hard to find these kind of noodles now. Must go back and eat this again... maybe tabao for my sister next time! Hahahahah
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We had dinner at Teahouse... the manager recommended us the Roasted Duck with Sour Plum Sauce. To be frank, the duck was very good... the meat was juicy, moist and tender. The sour plum sauce we thought was quite average. Would love to try the other flavours... I think they have 3 different sauces. But I think nothing beats the one at Dian Xiao Er..jpg)
This Cabbage with Century Egg and Salted Egg was very watery, quite lousy actually. The taste did not really go with the veggie itself... the use China Xiao Bai Cai which was not very nice... still cannot beat the one at Imperial Treasure..jpg)
This was another dish that was recommended by the manager... but it turned out quite bad! The taste was just so so so plain. Really nothing special about it. All in all... the food was ok... nothing fanastic..
Map of The New Shopping and Dining at Basement 1 of Raffles City
This Butter Pork Ribs was very very very very very very GOOD! It was so tender, the butter smell was perfect and the taste was simply yummy! It was the best butter pork ribs I have ever tasted... not that I have tasted elsewhere before! Should really try it... very good.. only $10.
The fish was a pleasant surprised. While waiting for the food, we somehow regretted ordering steam fish cos normally, you will not get fresh fish from a coffee shop tze char store, especially steamed ones... but we were wrong, the fish which they called PA TIN (it looked like a catfish to us) was surprisingly fresh. The soy sauce complimented the fish ($11.90)... not that bad isn't it!
The baby kailan with beef and mushroom was passable... quite normal and typical! Gladdy said that the veggie tasted quite raw... but I thought it was ok.. surprise surprise... these words coming from me... A veggie hater!!
They had an offer for crabs.. 2 for $19.80. We ordered for the fun of it... but it was just so so... I only ate a small piece and packed back the rest for my mum! What a dinner!
Chicken Mushroom Pie - horrible... you call this chicken pie?? I tot it was just dough :P
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Today had dinner with my family at Lau Pa Sat. Met up my sister first after gym as my parents had something to attend to.
We ordered the Hamburger Steak with Radish and Salmon Rice Wrapped with Seaweed. ($14.80)
This is the Omletter with Crab Meat in Soup with Mince Beef, Pork rice.
This is a close up of how the individual dishes are like... the Salmon in the rice was kind of mini. The hamburger steak was tasty... salty? The mince meat with rice went very well with the crab meat with omelette soup.
Azabu Sabo has made its name especially around its large selection of not so light desserts... they built its reputation on serving traditional Japanese sweet treats. In fact, desserts are listed first on the menu, before the Bento boxes and noodles. We ordered the Mattchazen - Green Tea Ice Cream in a Bowl of Dumpling & Red Bean Paste and Ice Cream with Mango.
The Mattchazen was served with a sweet, thick red bean paste and plain glutinous rice flour balls (tang yuan). We could find no fault with the ice cream, which was made from pure Hokkaido milk. The bitterness was subtle and actually very pleasant, texture wise, the ice cream was smooth and silky, melting the moment it touched our tongues. The chewy glutinous balls added a third dimension to the dessert’s texture and flavour.
"The Mango Ice was a generous serving of creamy shaved ice with fresh mango cubes, topped with tasty soft ice cream and rich mango sauce. Worth mentioning was the soft ice cream that was exceptionally smooth with a fragrant taste of maple-syrup sweetness. And of cos, the unique little pot filled with extra mango sauce.". - Gladdy
William and Xiaowei invited us to dinner at this place called Two Chefs... Old coffee shop just located beside the Commonwealth Crescent Market. Highly recommended for their Tze Char type of food... we sat down anticipating the yummy-li-cious food.
1st up was the White Raddish Soup, serve in a simple metal bowl. Though the soup looks clear and simple, it was rich in the essense of the raddish and bak kut, yet non-oily and it was simply tasty. Very home cooked type!
We also ordered the Beef Kailan and Hot Plate Toufu.
Xiaowei called this Mamak Chicken, I do not know why it is called that... but this chicken tasted very much like honey chicken... cripsy and sweet on the outside, juicy and tender on the inside... very yummy... writing this made me hungry again!
And the main reason for coming to eat here, the Coffee Pork Ribs... OMG.. this is the 3rd serving of different types of ribs I am having this week! But no regrets, well-coated in fragrant coffee sauce, crispy and honey-sweet, the outer layer was sprinkled with Sesame Seed which complimented the meat. It was a good and cheap meal... the whole dinner set us back by $40 only... meaning $10 per head... good good good!
