Sunday, July 30, 2006
Their name card says they are the 1st to introduce Dry Bak Kut Tah to Singapore. But we did not try that. What is bak kut teh without the soup!
The claypot bah kut teh $6
Saturday, July 29, 2006
Ordered my fav satay... this one has pineapple in the satay sauce! Wow!! packs a punch! Was so nice... the meat was juicy, tender and bbq just nice! Was so so so fulfilled after that!
Then we t ook a morning walk in the market... taking photos and looking around for fruits for my mum. Quite a snap shot yeah?
Friday, July 28, 2006
This time round, we ordered a Tofu with Crab sauce which was super salty! $10 was rather expensive I must say!
The butter pork ribs did not disappoint us... it was so deliciously good... the better sauce was very aromatically wonderful... very very very nice... meat tender too
This time round, we tried the fried patin fish instead of the steam one... only certain part of the fish was crispy! Taste-wise, the fish was not fishy at all. The sauce was nice to go with the rice. Overall, quite an enjoyable meal
Thursday, July 27, 2006
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Apology is crucial to our mental and even physical health. Recent research shows that receiving an apology has a noticeable, positive physical effect on the body. An apology actually affects the bodily functions of the person receiving it -- blood pressure decreases, heart rate slows and breathing becomes steadier.
Emotional Benefits of Apology
- A person who has been harmed feels emotional healing when he is acknowledged by the wrongdoer.
- When we receive an apology, we no longer perceive the wrongdoer as a personal threat.
- Apology helps us to move past our anger and prevents us from being stuck in the past.
- Apology opens the door to forgiveness by allowing us to have empathy for the wrongdoer.
Apology Benefits the Receiver and the Giver
- The debilitating effects of the remorse and shame we may feel when we've hurt another person can eat away at us until we become emotionally and physically ill. By apologizing and taking responsibility for our actions we help rid ourselves of esteem-robbing self-reproach and guilt.
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
“Expressing Regret” is the Apology Language that zeroes in on emotional hurt. It is an admission of guilt and shame for causing pain to another person.
For those who listen for “Expressing Regret” apologies, a simple “I’m sorry” is all they look for. There is no need for explanation or “pay back” provided the apology has truly come from the heart.
“Expressing Regret” is a powerful Apology Language because it gets right to the point. It doesn’t make excuses or attempt to deflect blame. Above all, “Expressing Regret” takes ownership of the wrong. For that reason, “Expressing Regret” is understood as a sincere commitment to repair and rebuild the relationship.
The “Expressing Regret” Apology Language speaks most clearly when the person offering the apology reflects sincerity not only verbally, but also through body language. Unflinching eye contact and a gentle, but firm touch are two ways that body language can underscore sincerity.
It is very difficult for some people to admit that they’re wrong. It makes them doubt their self-worth, and no one likes to be portrayed as a failure. However, as adults, we must all admit that we will make mistakes. We are going to make poor decisions that hurt our mates, and we are going to have to admit that we were wrong. We have to accept responsibility for our own failures.
For many individuals, all they want is to hear the words, “I am wrong.” If the apology neglects accepting responsibility for their actions, many partners will not feel as though the apology was meaningful and sincere. Many partners need to learn how to overcome their ego, the desire to not be viewed as a failure, and simply admit that their actions were wrong. For a mate who speaks this apology language, if an apology does not admit fault, it is not worth hearing. Being sincere in your apology means allowing yourself to be weak, and admitting that you make mistakes. Though this may be hard to do for some people, it makes a world of a difference to your partner who speaks this language.
In our society, many people believe that wrong acts demand justice. The one who commits the crime should pay for their wrongdoing. A mate who speaks this love language feels the same way towards apologies. They believe that in order to be sincere, the person who is apologizing should justify their actions. The mate who’s been hurt simply wants to hear that their mate still loves them.
There are many effective ways to demonstrate sincerity in an apology. Each mate must learn the other’s love language in order to complete the act of restitution. Though some mates may feel a though all is forgotten with a bouquet of flowers, that may not necessarily work for all mates. Every mate should uncover what their partner’s main love language is (Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts) and use that specific language in order to make restitutions in the most effective way.
For a mate whose primary apology language is making restitutions, no matter how often you say “I’m sorry”, or “I was wrong”, your mate will never find the apology sincere. You must show strong efforts for making amends. A genuine apology will be accompanied by the assurance that you still love your mate
and have a desire to right the wrong-doings committed.
For some individuals, repentance is the convincing factor in an apology. Some mates will doubt the sincerity of an apology if it is not accompanied by their partner’s desire to modify their behavior to avoid the situation in the future.
Admitting you are wrong creates vulnerability. It allows your mate to get a glimpse of your heart. The glimpse of true self is assurance that the apology was sincere.
One important aspect of genuinely repenting is verbalizing your desire to change. Your mate cannot read your mind. Though you may be trying to change inside, if you do not verbalize your desire to change to your mate, most likely they will still be hurt.
Many people have problems with repenting when they do not feel as though their actions were morally wrong. However, in a healthy relationship, we often make changes that have nothing to do with morality and everything to do with building a harmonious marriage.
It is also important to make a dedicated plan for change. Often apologies involving repentance fail because the person never set up steps of action to help ensure success. A person must first set goals for their change. After you create realistic goals, then you can start implementing a plan to change. Taking baby steps towards repentance instead of insisting on changing all at once will increase your chances of successfully changing your ways.
It is important to remember that change is hard. Constructive change does not mean we will immediately be successful. There will be highs and lows on the road to change. You must remember anyone can change their ways if they are truly and genuinely ready to repent.
In some relationships, a mate wants to hear their partner physically ask for forgiveness. They want assurance that their mate recognizes the need for forgiveness. By asking forgiveness for their actions, a partner is really asking their mate to still love them. Requesting forgiveness assures your mate that you want to see the relationship fully restored. It also proves to your mate that you are sincerely sorry for what you’ve done. It shows that you realize you’ve done something wrong. Requesting forgiveness also shows that you are willing to put the future of the relationship in the hands of the offended mate. You are leaving the final decision up to your partner – to forgive or not forgive.
Requesting forgiveness is not easy. It often leaves one vulnerable to the fear of rejection. Along with the fear of rejection is the fear of failing. Many people have a hard time seeking forgiveness because it means admitting that you have failed. The only way to overcome this fear is to recognize that it is very common amongst mankind. The commonality makes it okay to be a failure. It allows a stubborn mate to apologize to their partner and become a healthy individual.
Ultimately, it’s important to remember that there is a difference between asking for forgiveness and DEMANDING forgiveness. When we demand forgiveness, we tend to forget the nature of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a choice the offended party is supposed to make. Demanding forgiveness takes away the sincerity of asking for it.
Remember not to treat forgiveness lightly. It is something to be cherished and appreciated. The act of forgiveness is hard on both ends – for the person who’s asking and for the person who’s accepting.
This is for a friend's friend who might need help.. interesting article:-
Adultery doesn't have to end in divorce. But it is a wake-up call--a very loud one--that something is seriously wrong with the relationship. If a couple can learn to recognize the real motivations for the infidelity, and develop the skills to deal with the underlying problems, they have a good shot at surviving the trauma. Here's are some things they can do:
Acknowledge the infidelity.
Many people choose not to acknowledge their spouses infidelity to themselves, let alone to others for fear of risking all that they have. To lose even the semblance of a happy home, one they've nurtured for years, is too much to bear. They ignore their instincts, fail to confront their spouses, and make emotional tradeoffs with themselves--tradeoffs that ultimately serve neither themselves nor their marriage.
End the affair.
In order to rebuild the marriage, the unfaithful spouse has to take responsibility for his/her actions and end the affair.
Determine the reasons for the infidelity.
Without placing blame, discuss the underlying problems that contributed to difficulty in the marriage. Often, couples get so caught up in the minutiae of everyday life that they don't heed the signals that the road is getting rocky. Try to figure out where each partner's needs weren't being met. Empathizing with each other's emotions will make you feel more connected. List the behaviors you want your partner to change. Once you're aware of where each partner's needs weren't being met, work towards correcting those problems.
Let your partner know where he/she can find you.
The most difficult task is restoring trust, so the partner who strayed must be willing to go to great lengths to assure his/her spouse that he/she is being faithful. This means keeping him/her informed of business meetings and travel so he/she knows where he'she is, when he/she's working late and with whom.
Go beyond words.
Find concrete ways to show the faithful partner that he/she is valued and respected. A small gift with special significance, a call in the middle of the day, or a thoughtful card are all good choices.
Re-romanticize the marriage.
Think back to what turned you on when you first met. What clothes did you wear? What perfume or after-shave? Get dressed up when you go out for dinner. Spend more pleasurable time together, playing tennis or taking golf lessons, for example.
Begin to reconnect.
Share your hopes and dreams about your new--and improved--future together.
Monday, July 24, 2006
There were easily 8-10 stalls selling the Steam Fish Head with bean sauce. I wonder why... price range from $10 - $13... We tried this stall called Cheng Ji (stall no: 119)
This was the other famous stall. There was a constant queue. They never stopped dishing out their Char Kueh Teow and Hokkien Mee! We ordered their Fried Oyster to complement the Steam Fish we ordered.
So other then the steam fish and fried oyster, we ordered the fried noodles, yam cake and soon kueh. The noodles was very GOOD... really... brought back memories of my childhood days! Hard to find these kind of noodles now. Must go back and eat this again... maybe tabao for my sister next time! Hahahahah
Sunday, July 23, 2006
We had dinner at Teahouse... the manager recommended us the Roasted Duck with Sour Plum Sauce. To be frank, the duck was very good... the meat was juicy, moist and tender. The sour plum sauce we thought was quite average. Would love to try the other flavours... I think they have 3 different sauces. But I think nothing beats the one at Dian Xiao Er.
This Cabbage with Century Egg and Salted Egg was very watery, quite lousy actually. The taste did not really go with the veggie itself... the use China Xiao Bai Cai which was not very nice... still cannot beat the one at Imperial Treasure.
This was another dish that was recommended by the manager... but it turned out quite bad! The taste was just so so so plain. Really nothing special about it. All in all... the food was ok... nothing fanastic..
Map of The New Shopping and Dining at Basement 1 of Raffles City
This Butter Pork Ribs was very very very very very very GOOD! It was so tender, the butter smell was perfect and the taste was simply yummy! It was the best butter pork ribs I have ever tasted... not that I have tasted elsewhere before! Should really try it... very good.. only $10.
The fish was a pleasant surprised. While waiting for the food, we somehow regretted ordering steam fish cos normally, you will not get fresh fish from a coffee shop tze char store, especially steamed ones... but we were wrong, the fish which they called PA TIN (it looked like a catfish to us) was surprisingly fresh. The soy sauce complimented the fish ($11.90)... not that bad isn't it!
The baby kailan with beef and mushroom was passable... quite normal and typical! Gladdy said that the veggie tasted quite raw... but I thought it was ok.. surprise surprise... these words coming from me... A veggie hater!!
They had an offer for crabs.. 2 for $19.80. We ordered for the fun of it... but it was just so so... I only ate a small piece and packed back the rest for my mum! What a dinner!
Boston Wraps - Turkey, Beef, Bacon, Egg, Chicken, Avocado and Salad. It was quite a yukky colour yeah? Green and all...it was not too bad... but found it abit too dry.
Chicken Mushroom Pie - horrible... you call this chicken pie?? I tot it was just dough :P
Friday, July 21, 2006
Thursday, July 20, 2006
So I am a castle...
◎ Your life is represented by the grand castle with a devoted spirit, so you like to help others without asking for anything in return. You keep your word and you like kind and determined people. You look like an easy-going person but you are actually quite determined. It's hard to tell what's on your mind and you tend to keep a low profile.◎
Your characteristics, subconscious, and behavior modes, according to your fate and destiny, are represented by the castle. You will naturally protect yourself, but can accept others. You are amiable and smart, but a bit dull.
You understand things clearly, but tend to keep your viewpoint inside your heart. Although a castle is impressive and imposing it also seems unchangeable. People will neglect your contribution until you leave your original position or give your feedback, only then will they discover your importance. You have your own viewpoint, but are willing to cooperate with others and give them the stage and opportunity to perform. A castle is has defense function, so you are more defensive and others are unable to enter your inner world.
Your appearance is very amiable, but you are very rigid in your heart and will persist and not give up. You admire people who are heroic, dominating and a bit arrogant, but also respect those who are unselfish and lenient with others. Your entire life is like a solid castle, devoted society, never asking for any payback, and being supportive of others. You will have many good friends in the down times of your life.
◎ Health Analysis: The function of your stomach and intestines is weaker.◎
According to your destiny analysis, the function of your stomach and intestines is weaker, which caused minor problems like bad breath, upset or bloated stomach, and diarrhea when you were young. But over age 40, additional care of your stomach and intestines is needed, or it may lead to major digestive system problems such as esophagus infection, stomach or intestinal infection, gastric ulcer, hemorrhoids, intestines polyp, diabetes. Therefore, you should avoid fatigue and stress, maintain a stable lifestyle and schedule, sleep and wake early, eat regular meals at regular hours, don't drink alcohol, and consume less acidic food and drink in order to protect a congenitally weak digestive system.
There's a saying that all disease starts from the mouth, which means many human diseases are related to food. According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, food can be divided into gold, wood, water, fire and earth (concept of the five elements). You seem to prefer the sweet flavors of desserts and other sweets, which means your cells are filled with too much earth element. This negatively affects your health, fortune and career, so we suggest you try different foods to balance your diet and nutrition, which leads to harmony in life and a balance of yin and yang based on the five elements. In addition, if you have recently felt unlucky or things were not going smoothly, then you are probably affected by bad spirit, which caused bad luck. The best solution is not to eat meat and fish for a period of time until the bad spirit goes away. The bad spirit tends to stay with those who eat meat and fish, and also chicken, duck, green onion, garlic, leek and other spices, so a vegetarian diet can help change your luck.
◎ Health Analysis: The function of your respiratory system is weaker as well.◎
The function of your respiratory system is weaker as well, and you have had minor problems like allergies, runny nose, cough, cold, chest pain, diarrhea and constipation when you were young. But over age 40, additional care of your respiratory system is needed, or it may lead to nasosinutisis, asthma, bronchopneumonia, bronchitis, intestines polyp and proctitis. Therefore, you should avoid fatigue and smoking, maintain a stable, regular lifestyle and schedule, and sleep and wake early in order to protect a congenitally weaker respiratory system.
According to your destiny analysis, your working and living environment tends to be a bit messy and without good air circulation, which is not good for your respiratory system. You tend to be anxious, lack patience and tolerance, which means you don't get along well with friends.
If you want to change your fate and destiny, breath deeply for five minutes per day, maintain good air circulation, and open a window or door in your room. As long as you have sufficient oxygen in your body, your destiny will be completely changed with better health, more wealth and happiness coming into your life.
◎ You and your love interest are mutually attracted and love each other equally. She fully respects you in every way, so you will get along very well. Your love is full of romance, so to be your companion is to be blessed with love and happiness.◎
In romance, according to our analysis, you are easily attracted to someone you admire in your heart, but you often end up empty-handed because it's quite difficult for both parties to fall in love at first sight. Generally speaking, women do not have deep first impression of you, so they need time to discover your inner beauty. You, however, tend to like a person at the first sight, but not after a period of time. Therefore, if you are still waiting for a good romance, try to show your inner beauty by doing more activities, establishing better habits, and socializing with more people. This way you can express your inner beauty naturally all the time, which makes your romance go more smoothly.
In the journey of life, your romantic or marriage partner might be introduced by relatives and friends, or through matchmaking. You tend to be inexperienced in love, unable to express yourself, and do not know how to actively pursue someone without being too sticky or giving up easily. You have opportunities but are afraid to get hurt, so eventually it is not easy for you to have the spark of love. If you are still seeking your love partner don't rush because someone nearby likes you, so as long as you pursue the relationship sincerely, the happiness is yours.
◎ Career and Wealth Analysis: You know how to make money, but it is not easy for you to hold onto your money.◎
According to your destiny analysis, you know how to make money, but it is not easy for you to hold onto your money. Your life is more philosophical, so you are not stingy with yourself, family or friends. You spend what you have even when you are financially tight, and are generous when you are financially comfortable. Because of this, it's not easy for you to save your money. In addition, you maybe convinced easily by friends to make some financial investments that cause you to lose money. You like to make many friends, so you easily lose money if you cannot evaluate risk or reject people when they approach you for investment. You will spend most of your wealth doing things you want to do throughout life because you consider only money spent as the wealth actually owned by you. Afterwards, you will not bequest much to your descendants.
So how true? Well to some extend I guess... but will take it with a pinch of salt!
Wednesday, July 19, 2006
My Brother in law (BIL) wanted to eat the Fatman Satay (Stall No 1), but I was not in favour of it knowing there is really nothing fantastic about Fatman Satay. We sat down in front of stall 6 as I know they have better satay. We ordered 10 mutton, 10 chicken and 10 beef. 1 rice. Total cost $16. Why I prefer this? Because the meat is slice/in pieces, not mince... they are also more generous in the peanuts in th sauce, not dilute!
I ordered Rojak, 1 Tau Pok, 2 Yu Tiao, 1 Cuttlefish and 1 Century egg ($6). Not too bad, the sauce was also nice, it was kind of warm.. so it made the Rojak taste 'fresh'
My BIL ordered Kway Chap... without the Kway... only the innards, meat and so on. It looked pale, but the chilli enhance the taste.
Our parents arrived and joined us and we ordered more satays. 5 more of each meat. Also ordered Sting Ray and Mee Goreng. The Sting Ray was mediocre... almost passable. The Mee Goreng was totally horrible... it was cold and it was like yellow noodles with chilli paste! Totally lousy!
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
We ordered the Hamburger Steak with Radish and Salmon Rice Wrapped with Seaweed. ($14.80)
This is the Omletter with Crab Meat in Soup with Mince Beef, Pork rice.
This is a close up of how the individual dishes are like... the Salmon in the rice was kind of mini. The hamburger steak was tasty... salty? The mince meat with rice went very well with the crab meat with omelette soup.
Azabu Sabo has made its name especially around its large selection of not so light desserts... they built its reputation on serving traditional Japanese sweet treats. In fact, desserts are listed first on the menu, before the Bento boxes and noodles. We ordered the Mattchazen - Green Tea Ice Cream in a Bowl of Dumpling & Red Bean Paste and Ice Cream with Mango.
The Mattchazen was served with a sweet, thick red bean paste and plain glutinous rice flour balls (tang yuan). We could find no fault with the ice cream, which was made from pure Hokkaido milk. The bitterness was subtle and actually very pleasant, texture wise, the ice cream was smooth and silky, melting the moment it touched our tongues. The chewy glutinous balls added a third dimension to the dessert’s texture and flavour.
"The Mango Ice was a generous serving of creamy shaved ice with fresh mango cubes, topped with tasty soft ice cream and rich mango sauce. Worth mentioning was the soft ice cream that was exceptionally smooth with a fragrant taste of maple-syrup sweetness. And of cos, the unique little pot filled with extra mango sauce.". - Gladdy
Monday, July 17, 2006
Sunday, July 16, 2006
1st up was the White Raddish Soup, serve in a simple metal bowl. Though the soup looks clear and simple, it was rich in the essense of the raddish and bak kut, yet non-oily and it was simply tasty. Very home cooked type!
We also ordered the Beef Kailan and Hot Plate Toufu.
Xiaowei called this Mamak Chicken, I do not know why it is called that... but this chicken tasted very much like honey chicken... cripsy and sweet on the outside, juicy and tender on the inside... very yummy... writing this made me hungry again!
And the main reason for coming to eat here, the Coffee Pork Ribs... OMG.. this is the 3rd serving of different types of ribs I am having this week! But no regrets, well-coated in fragrant coffee sauce, crispy and honey-sweet, the outer layer was sprinkled with Sesame Seed which complimented the meat. It was a good and cheap meal... the whole dinner set us back by $40 only... meaning $10 per head... good good good!